Officially a #boymom!
When I was a little girl, I dreamed of getting married to my prince charming and one day raising a beautiful brood of kids. I never imagined that brood would be all boys though. I envisioned at least one daughter, if not two or three. So imagine my surprise to find out that we will be having our third baby boy come next Spring. While I am absolutely thrilled to be a mother to another beautiful little boy again, it did pain me a little inside that my dream of raising a sweet little girl may not come true after all.
Please don’t mistake that I am in any way disappointed in the fact that I am having a little boy. I have two gorgeous, sweet little boys who are the lights of my life. And if God is willing to give me another, I am honoured to have him. So don’t mistake my feelings as “gender disappointment,” a term that psychiatrists have termed to give name to the idea that you’re upset with the gender of baby you’ve conceived. I truly hate the word disappointment to describe my feelings towards the sex of my baby. I have never for a moment been upset about having a little boy, I was however, mourning the fact that I may never get to raise a little girl – someone to teach the ropes of womanhood to. Of course, this is not to say I will never get to pass on my lessons as a woman to my sons. In fact, it could be argued it’s more important for men to be taught about a woman’s needs and wants, as that is something they will never get to experience firsthand. Also, I take my job of raising godly, noble men who treat women with the utmost respect very seriously. So all in all, I am honoured to be raising men of the future.
The point of all this is to clarify that yes, while a little girl to love and raise would have been a great pleasure and privilege, I am by no means disappointed to be raising all boys. And while I may feel having three kids feels like a good number, God may have other plans for our family. My husband and I have been praying about the idea of adoption, but know this is a big decision to consider. I do think expanding your family in any way, whether it’s biologically or through adoption and fostering, is such a wonderful blessing. But we are by no means naive about the process of any of these means, thus will be very prudent in prayers and doing our due diligence before moving forward. In the meantime, I ask for prayers as we grow our family and faith. Blessings to you all!